If you were to ask any parent they would say that children don’t usually find the perfect timing to have emotional break downs. Shopping centres, restaurants and stores (or any other public place) appear to bring their worst side, with explosive burst outs that would have even the most patient of parents feel ashamed. But why the embarrassment? After all, they are just kids behaving like kids.
Actor Justin Baldoni lately shared a photo of his little daughter and what he learned from his dad out of such moments. Baldoni, famous for his role on the show ”Jane the Virgin,” posted a photo that his wife took as they were shopping at the local Whole Foods. In the photo, the actor together with his father are starring at his daughter, Maya who is crying and lying on the floor.No one knows about what but we can see her in tantrum pose. They are not at all ashamed even though a group of people has gathered around them in the store. When he published the photo on his Facebook, he recalled how his father would act in similar situations when the actor himself was little, and how that helped him be the man he is today .”My dad always let me feel what I needed to feel, even if it was in public and embarrassing.“
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”I don’t remember him ever saying ‘You’re embarrassing me!’ or ‘Don’t cry!’It wasn’t until recently that I realized how paramount that was for my own emotional development. Our children are learning and processing so much information and they don’t know what to do with all of these new feelings that come up. I try to remember to make sure my daughter knows it’s OK that she feels deeply. It’s not embarrassing to me when she throws tantrums in the grocery store or screams on a plane. I’m her dad…not yours.`
Let’s not be embarrassed for our children. It doesn’t reflect on you. In fact..we should probably be a little more kind and patient with ourselves too. If we got out everything we were feeling and allowed ourselves to throw tantrums and cry when we felt the need to then maybe we’d also let ourselves feel more joy and happiness. And that is something this world could definitely use a little more of.”
Parents are always under pressure on how to be good ones to their kids. But that doesn’t mean your child will never get angry or frustrated or confused. As the actor explained children are only starting to learn and find out the world’s boundaries. They are going to go through a lot of emotions as they face things they are not able to comprehend. It is important that we teach them to show their feelings and not hide them out of fear of feeling embarrassed-which would come back on them when they are grown ups. Dealing with our emotions, or merely having a nice cry right in the middle of the store, teaches us an important lesson.
Raising healthy children outcomes the embarrassment you feel from people you will probably never see again.