Childhood experiences have a great impact on us later in our lives. People who have experienced emotional abuse know this better than anyone else.
Being emotionally abused leaves irreparable scars in a child’s life. It has an impact on his emotions and behaviour as well. This is mainly because it comes from people they trust the most, their parents.
A close friend of mine who has been emotionally abused as a child acts very differently from us who have had a normal childhood.
They perceive the world and themselves in a very different way.
Below listed are 8 habits shared by people who have been emotionally abused as a child :
1. Low self-esteem
In case you think of yourself as not good and clever enough, you might have been told this during your childhood. You question your abilities and have a hard time in believing that you can do anything you doubt everything in your life.
What’s more, you have the need of being appreciated from others as you feel like everything you do is useless.
The people you trusted the most left you feeling betrayed. They hurt you and left you in a complete mess inside. Eventually, you have the tendency of creating a distance with others as you are afraid of being treated the same way your parents did. You believe that others don’t deserve your fidelity and kindness.
You are careful not to reveal your emotions out of fear that others manipulate you.
This is the reason you find it hard to let people in your life.
3. Repressed anger
Because of anger accumulated through the years, you often get mad when facing injustice, you have difficulty in controlling negative emotions and this has an impact in the way you think and behave.
You are aware that you didn’t deserve such a thing and this is why you feel anger.The worst thing to happen is that you have no control of such outbursts.
4. Conflict deviation
In case you suffered emotional abuse as a kid, you were used to seeing your parents shout and fight. When facing arguments now it urges painful memories from your childhood.
You’d prefer avoiding conflicts as you are not able to face emotional dramas. You simply wish to be at peace.
5. Continuous apologies
Another habit of emotionally abused people is the need to apologize even if the person is not guilty at all.
This is due to the fact that you want to avoid arguments and mostly due to continuous criticism you faced as a child making you believe that all things happen because of you.
6. You have a hard time establishing eye contact
When talking to other people you don’t have eye contact. Even if you did that you’d feel pretty nervous. You feel embarrassed when you are with other people and have a hard time stating your opinion.
This comes as a result of you worrying that others don’t have an interest in what you say or they might laugh at you.
7. Having a hard time accepting compliments
Having spent your childhood with parents who frequently criticized you, you find it difficult knowing how to accept compliments.
By frequently emphasizing your mistakes they made you feel useless. That negative image is still stuck in your brain.
8. Sensitive to loud sounds
Being raised in an abusive environment, you are now scared of loud noises. Even the slightest of sounds frighten you like when somebody drops something or people shouting. These kinds of situations bring you back in the time you had to face shouting in your childhood.